Making Christmas Magical for the Magic Makers!

Every year, I look forward to Christmas with the excitement of a child… and the amnesia of a woman who has clearly forgotten how tired she was last year.

Because let's be real once December hits, moms don’t just celebrate Christmas, we run it.

We decorate. We bake. We shop. We wrap. We plan meals, traditions, activities, and somehow keep everyone emotionally regulated while doing it. We are the magic makers. The honorary elves. The invisible engine behind the sparkle.

And somewhere between decking the halls and refilling the hot cocoa, it’s really easy to lose ourselves.

This year, I want to talk about how to make Christmas magical for the people who make the magic happen , YOU! Because joy shouldn’t come at the cost of exhaustion.

Here are three mindset shifts that can change everything.

1. Let Go of Perfection (It’s Not the Thing Making the Memories Anyway)

Let’s start here: perfection is lying to us.

The perfectly decorated tree.

The matching pajamas.

The homemade treats that look like Pinterest and not like a cry for help.

None of those things are what your kids will remember.

They will remember how it felt.

They will remember laughing on the couch.

They will remember warmth, safety, presence.

They will remember you, not whether the bows matched the wrapping paper.

Perfection is exhausting, and it steals the joy it promises to deliver. When we release the pressure to make everything “just right,” we create space for something better: peace.

Messy magic is still magic.✨️

2. Learn to Say No (We have free will)

December has a funny way of filling itself up.

Extra events.

Extra commitments.

Extra expectations, from others and from ourselves.

Here’s your permission slip: you do not have to commit to everything just because it’s Christmas.

You can say no to:

One more party

One more activity

One more thing added to your already full plate

Every “no” is actually a “yes” to something else your energy, your family, your sanity.

The magic doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from being present for what you choose to do.

And sometimes, the most magical thing is staying home in your pajamas.

3. Put Yourself on the To-Do List (Yes, You Belong There)

We are very good at taking care of everyone else.

We plan the magic. We execute the magic. We hold the emotional weight of the season.

But we forget one crucial thing: the magic maker matters too.

Self-care during the holidays doesn’t have to be extravagant. It can be:

Sitting quietly with your coffee before the house wakes up

Taking a walk to breathe

Saying no so you can rest

Doing something just because you enjoy it

When you put yourself on the to-do list, you’re not being selfish , you’re being sustainable.

A regulated, rested, cared-for mom creates a warmer Christmas than any perfectly curated tradition ever could.

Christmas is special. It’s meaningful. It’s worth celebrating.

But it’s also okay to admit that being the magic maker can be heavy.

This season, let’s redefine what “magical” looks like.

Not perfect.

Not overbooked.

Not depleted.

But peaceful. Intentional. Joy-filled.

Because when the magic maker is cared for, the magic lasts longer , and feels a whole lot sweeter.

And girl, you deserve that.🩷